How To Tell If She Is
Interested
How can you tell
if a woman is interested in you?
Answer
quickly.
So what
gives?
Why am I asking
you a trick question?
Simple.
Because I'm
trying to make you THINK.
I'm sure that,
just like me, you've read a hundred books and articles that say things
like:
"If she tilts her
head to one side and strokes her neck, that's a sign of
interest..."
"If she licks her
lips in a longing fashion, that means she's interested in you..."
"If she laughs a
lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes
you..."
DUH!
I remember when I
first read all this stuff.
I thought to
myself "Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn't
know to look for them. Now
I'll know when a woman is interested in me..."
Well,
there was ONE SMALL problem...
The problem is
that women display these MAJOR INTEREST signals in about 1 of 100
interactions with
men...
And there
was one BIG problem...
That problem was
that none of the damn books I read said a single thing about how to MAKE
women give you these
signals.
In other words,
what I realized is that average guys like me who don't get "approached" by
women need to learn not
only WHAT to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually CREATE
ATTRACTION in women so
they GAVE me these signals in the FIRST
PLACE.
So let me share
with you some ideas on how to MAKE women feel ATTRACTION for you... and
then I'll share some ideas
on what to LOOK FOR to tell if a woman is interested.
And my ideas will
be a WEEEEEE BIT different than the ones you read in your flirting
books.
OK, so you're out
at a bar with a few friends, and it's time to meet some interesting
women.
You look around,
and none of the hot young babes in there seem to be tilting their heads
to one side, looking you
in the eye, and licking their lips... so you decide to DO
SOMETHING.
What do
most guys do in this situation?
Either:
1) Nothing,
because they're scared, or...
2) Something
typical, like ask a girl to dance, or if he can buy her a drink.
If you're guilty
of doing these, raise your hand.
Then take your
raised hand, and slap yourself silly. Not too hard. But silly.
Here's a
thought for you...
If you put 100
guys in a bar with one beautiful woman sitting alone, and you say to all 100
of the guys, "Hey guys,
which one of you can walk over to that woman and do something to make that
woman feel a SEXUAL
ATTRACTION for you?"... I'd say that
if you're LUCKY, one of them will
claim that he can do
it.
In other words,
for most guys, the idea of walking up to a girl they don't know and
doing something that will
TRIGGER an attraction is completely outside of their
universe.
This is one of
the reasons why guys do things like asking girls to dance, buying them
drinks, etc.
Now, something
you must understand when it comes to women and ATTRACTION is that women
don't feel ATTRACTION for
WUSSIES.
ATTRACTION isn't a
CHOICE.
It isn't logical
(at least, on the surface).
But once you
start to "get it", everything changes. Your entire perspective changes once
you "get it", and your
results change instantly as well.
So here's
something for you to try:
MESS WITH
WOMEN.
That's right
"mess with" them.
Tease.
Bust
on.
Be
difficult.
Why?
Because it
INSTANTLY communicates that:
1) You could care
less what she thinks of you.
2) You're a fun
person.
3) You're
unpredictable.
4) You're a bit
of a "wild card"
5) You GET
IT.
Now, you might be
shaking your head right now and saying "That doesn't make any sense. Why
would a woman feel attracted to me if I mess with her instead
of being nice?".
That's a good
question.
But for now, take
the hand that you slapped yourself with earlier, and slap yourself
again.
Good.
I want you to
STOP following your "be nice and kiss ass" instincts when you first meet a
woman, and instead
practice MESSING WITH HER.
Make fun
of something.
Go to hand her
something, then pull it away at the last second.
Shake your head
in despair and tell her that she's screwing up her chances with
you.
Say something
Cocky & Funny, then turn around and walk away before she can respond to your
face.
Can ya feel me,
dog?
Now the good
stuff...
HOW TO
TELL IF SHE'S INTERESTED
Well, this is
what you were looking for, so here it is...
I'm going to give
you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is
interested in
you.
Here it
is:
1) You engage
her.
2) She engages
you back.
Yes, that's it.
Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap
later.
I know that this
sounds a little "Duh-ish", but stay with me here.
If I walk into a
restaurant, and the hostess asks me how many are in my party, and I
answer with, "Well, there
are three of us. I guess there will be FOUR if YOU join us..." and she
laughs at my joke, then
IT'S ON!
If I'm standing
at the bar, and the woman next to me bumps into my arm, and I turn and say,
"Hey, watch it, OK? Keep
some space here, I need at least a foot of room..." in a serious tone
of voice... and she starts
playing along by smiling and moving away from me then back again
playfully, then IT'S
ON!
If I'm talking to
a woman that I met at the magazine rack, and I ask her, "What's with
that huge purse of yours?
You got a dog in there or something?" and she starts laughing and
making excuses, then IT'S
ON!
In a
nutshell, what I'm trying to say is:
1) Stop looking
around for signals from women that they're "interested" in you.
2) Stop CARING
whether or not a particular woman is interested in you.
3) Instead, start
TRIGGERING the interest, and watching to see if women ENGAGE. If they do,
then assume that IT'S
ON!
As long as you
use how she's responding to what YOU do as your gauge, then you'll have a
MUCH easier time spotting
the "she wants me" clues...
...Because YOU
ARE THE ONE CAUSING THEM.
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